>Messin’ Up A Good Thing

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Why do women have to always fall in love and mess up a good thing?

Sound like fighting words, right? Well, this is the logic I was working with when I was a single lad. No matter what I told my prospective “friend” upfront, sooner or later they would want to change the rules of the game. Like a true player, I wasn’t having it. Revealing their feelings just meant that it was “time up” for them.

Before y’all start trippin’ on Ole Rich, keep in mind, I was doing this when I was in my early twenties (I’m almost 40 now), so imagine my surprise when I was talking to a friend of mine long distance and she started laying this conversation down about how she was now digging on this dude that she started out with as just a “friend”, and she was wondering why he wouldn’t commit. I just shook my head, although she couldn’t see it through the phone, and replied “You may as well hang it up or dig in for the long haul. Dude sounds like me from back in the day, he’s not going to change game mid-stream.”

I eventually had to switch to a different conversation, because I could tell she was stuck on doing what she wanted. She was being a glutton for punishment, just because the loving was good. What a shame. So it got me to thinking, if she’s over 40, attractive and intelligent and g’ing for this type of behavior, how many sisters are out here doing the same thing? Inquiring minds want to know.

12 thoughts on “>Messin’ Up A Good Thing

  1. >Rule #1 Believe what we say. If we say we want to just be friends, believe us. This line usually means we have at least one other sista we are doing also.If ya'll ask the right questions, I might give you more. I'm already breaking the rules.Game is to be sold not told, but since y'all my sista's I'm feeling pretty generous today.

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  2. >You must have been praying, cause I was working out and heard a voice say God's law trumps Man's. Got to look out for my sista's I suppose.So here goes. The playa sticks around as long as things work for him or as long as you allow him to come and go without provocation. The end is only inevitable when you decide it's not what you want to do anymore. So as far as he's concerned, you brought the bad feelings on yourself. Here's the thing, and I hate to assume this about your case, but eight times out of ten the woman gives it up too quick in cases like this. The other twenty percent of the time, dude was just running game. Most dudes are going to try and get it, the question is will you give in. I know it's a double standard (he's free to hit early but you aren't), but the rules were set long before you got in the game. This ought to be enough to take most of you through the rest of the year. Don't worry fella's, them knowing the game only makes you better men in the end, trust me on that one.

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  3. >Theres that bitch game again…I swear if I see her in the mall….I hear what you are saying Rich, chastity is the essential part of maintaining a long lasting true relationship, with commitment in check.Its crazy cause Im learning this now in my thirties rather than earlier. A man is going to attempt to get as far as he can as fast as he can without commitment. its the power of the pussy that is going to either draw him or drive him away.

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  4. >I've been MIA for a few days trying to meet a deadline (I did..whew). I'm trying to get caught up on my blog readings.Rich, keep dropping knowledge on us sisters. Lance, don't shut it down. Even if y'all reveal some more of the player secrets, I know you all got some that's still under lock & key.Share…share and share…lol

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  5. >Hi guys! I've been gone for a minuet and I see this conversation is Off and Running…My two cents is that women are emotional. no matter if the rules are written & posted on the headboard, we allow our feelings to take control. however men are into the challenge of getting the 'one' no one else can get. yeah,we have all heard or used the line of 'being friends' – its just part of the game.

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  6. >"My two cents is that women are emotional. no matter if the rules are written & posted on the headboard, we allow our feelings to take control. however men are into the challenge of getting the 'one' no one else can get. yeah,we have all heard or used the line of 'being friends' – its just part of the game." – California Dove…so easy to read a caveman can understand……lol

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