News flash! Men and women view love very differently. This is not always apparent, because of the assumptions that people make simply because they are in a relationship. I’ve known this, but I’m amazed at some of the views that people have, so I thought I’d bring this one up for discussion.
The idea for this post came about while I was speaking to a long time friend who was expressing to me her love for a former male companion whom she still considers a pretty good friend. She spoke of how she expressed her feelings to him only for him to be baffled because he had not participated in activities in which he considered necessary for love to occur. Things like going for walks while holding hands, sitting on the couch in each other’s lap, going on picnics in the park, etc. Meanwhile, they had a two year sexually involved relationship. During which time she fell in love with the many attributes that made him the man whom he presented himself to be. He, on the other hand, didn’t feel it was love because he didn’t have an accompanying external sign to validate an emotion that he was undoubtedly having. Therefore, he was still looking for love, because what they had couldn’t be it.
So my question is a simple one. How do you determine that you are in love? I know it may be different for everyone, but I’m really curious. So if you don’t mind, indulge me, just for a moment.
Posted by Rich (subbing for Lo)