…but it’s not. How would you handle this if you were the woman in the piece below from the column Tales from the Front?
Courtney and Bill had been married for eight years when she discovered that Bill had been having an affair for a year with his secretary, Deidre. And if that weren’t enough, Deidre had become pregnant with Bill’s baby. And if that weren’t enough, Courtney found out about the affair and the baby when the sheriff’s deputy delivered paternity papers to her home. But wait, this all happened while she and Bill were in the process of adopting a baby.
Let’s back up a few years. During the year of the affair, Courtney says she asked Bill many times if something was going on: “I just felt that something was different, but I had no proof. Every time I asked him, he denied it. The day before the arrival of the sheriff’s deputy was the last time I asked him.
Law-abiding citizens don’t usually have someone from the sheriff’s department ringing their doorbell, serving them with legal papers. After the shock, Courtney read the petition. She said first she felt sadness, “then relief that I wasn’t crazy. Then embarrassment when I realized the deputy was watching me read the petition and learn that my husband had been unfaithful and had a 6-month-old daughter named Alexis. Then sadness again when the deputy apologized for having brought me the news. Anger came and pitched a tent the next day.“
Courtney’s first pregnancy had caused complications. She and Bill had gone through fertility treatments to have another child, but treatments hadn’t worked. They had decided to adopt: “We had just found out that the adoption was going through when I learned of the affair.”
>Courtney says she thought about leaving Bill “many, many, many times, but I took my marriage vows seriously.” She agreed to stay with him, but she had conditions that he had to meet. One of them was that he be a real father to Alexis [the outside baby], “not just a check in the mail. It wasn’t her fault. She was just a baby.”
As soon as she learned about Alexis, Courtney insisted that she and Bill visit her often, together.
Poor, poor Courtney. Now she’s got an adopted baby and an outside baby, too, thanks to the helpful efforts of her hubby Bill.
What would you do? And what about all those warning signs Courtney kept having? Should she have stuck it out with Bill? Should Bill have, um, stuck it
out into his secretary?
So many questions. So many babies…